Sunday, January 22, 2006

Girl Kidnapped forced Sex Slave

I was watching America Justice last night. It was about the girl who was kidnapped by this psycho who kept her as a sex slave for 7 years. I had heard this story previously it was the infamous case of the guy who kept the girl in a box under his bed. I am sure if you are old like me you have seen this story at sometime in your life. What a sad sad story and my heart broke for this woman. It was very interesting to see the details of this case like only American Justice or Cold Case files could tell it. They are my most favorite shows ever. Once they had a Cold Case marathon on and I could not move as I was glued to the television even though I had already seen every single episode previously. I guess that is like me being able to watch I Love Lucy over and over again even though I know every episode word for word. Yes I know it is a sickness, hehe. Hey give me a break, I was an abused child it makes us quirky, but it's cute right? Okay where is that Ritalin. Back on subject!! Well I was thinking there are so many women in the D/s lifestyle that would have consented to be someone's sex slave. Why kidnap this girl? His wife was submissive to him. Why keep someone against their will. I was at a complete loss as I watched this because I know there are some women who love this treatment. Why not join a D/s club and find someone who would willingly be your sex slave. So my thought is what was the driving force behind the crime. Did the man want a sex slave or did he want to hold someone against their will. Is it more exciting to hold someone as a sex slave that is not consensual? So many questions that will never be answered. I see the beauty of the Dominant/submissive relationship, and I think if I were a Dominant and wanted a sex slave it would be so much more meaningful to have someone who consented and wanted to be my sex slave.


At 1/22/2006, Blogger crazysilver said...

You're is an illness. I don't think it was entirely about sex, but more or less the "thrill" of being in total control against her will, the "thrill" of doing something so wrong and so illegal.

I think it is the complete opposite of the true meaning if D/s relationships.

At 1/22/2006, Blogger Top cat said...

Obviously the work of a very sick individual.
I don't think knowledge of the D/s lifestyle would make a difference with this sicko.

As unkind as it sounds I can only hope this person finds themselves in a situation in prison where he IS the unwilling recipient of being a SEX SLAVE.

I agree with you, those are two great shows, especially when you see Justice finally take place after many many years.

At 1/22/2006, Blogger xmichra said...

never watched those show, but they sound interesting.

I dont know anything about the D/s relationship.. but from everything I have ever heard it always consentual between the two people. Trust being a very high factor. So I would thing any knowledge of that would not have been his agenda. Pretty sure he just wanted to hold somebody, and have that power... which is really sick. I agree with TC, hope he finds the long end of a mop.

At 1/22/2006, Blogger gunngirl said...

I also think it was more about him just wanting to hold her against her will. You know, there is a series of books called Marketplace that is about a young girl who decides to live her life as a sub.

I read the first one and it was sort of interesting because it showed how there is a total lifestyle and how they go through training, and they have to be "shown" to their "buyers" and such. I'm assuming that wasn't made up.

Of course, this guy was just crazy, and there is a difference in knowing someone wants to be there but acts like they don't, over someone who really is scared and doesn't want to be there. Most nuts want the latter.

At 1/22/2006, Blogger Fred said...

It's all about control. I've never seen the show, but it sounds like one I need to find.

At 1/23/2006, Blogger LocuTus of Borg said...

I agree with the statement that it is not consented that makes him want to do something like that. Like crazy said, "thrill" - when it is forbidden we want to do it. I have never seen those shows, but I am sure they are good if you watch them :).

At 1/23/2006, Blogger Still Searching... said...

You make a very valid point Cherish. I think that the fact that it was not consentual was part of the allure, the smell of fear and that he was the one that caused that fear.

There are some very sick people in the truly makes my skin crawl.

At 1/23/2006, Blogger Daddy's Boy said...

Why get someone unwilling when you can get someone willing?

Human are strange eh.

At 1/23/2006, Blogger cherish said...

Crazy: I think you are completely right! The thrill of keeping the ultimate sex slave. I guess if it was consensual it would not have had that thrill factor. I was just so shocked by the stuff he did to her. You are a hundred percent correct again when you say D/s is the complete opposite!

TC: OH boy was he ever a sicko!! I would love to see someone bend him over and give him what for!!! Cold Case and American Justice are AWESOME !!!!

Xmichra: OOOO a mop eh? Hmmm did not even think of that, great idea. Maybe we can send some suggestions to the jail where he is being held. In the D/s lifestyle it is consensual bond of trust and love between two people (If it is done right, winks)

Gunngirl: I am not sure if those books are fact based but I would not doubt it. This guy was just a crazed lunatic who will never get out of jail.

Fred: I think you are right he had the ultimate control over her. He told her of an organization that would hurt her and her family if she ran away. Towards the end of her slavery, he actually let her visit with her family but reminded her that the organization was watching. She never said one thing to her family she was scared to death. It was his wife that went to a priest and told him what was happening. OOOO American Justice and Cold Case Files AWESOME Showsssssss now there is a television show with actors called Cold Case too but I like the one with the real people not actors.

LoB: You are too sweet LoB! I watch very little television but those two shows and Whos Line is it Anyway keeps me in my seat with my full attention and you know what a task that is!!!

Still Searching: It makes my skin crawl too. I was watching this show on a serial killer that was getting out of jail on a loophole. Thank God someone came out with evidence of a different murder to keep him in jail. He has killed so many people and you never hear anything about him. It is very weird. I had never heard about his case and I watch this stuff all the time. People are just plan sick. But thanks to the man who had the courage to speak up that sicko will be in jail for the rest of his life.

At 1/23/2006, Blogger cherish said...

WBE: You are correct!! Bops you!!!!!!!!! You did not tell me you started on your blog again.

At 1/23/2006, Blogger beadinggalinMS said...

That guy is a sick person.

At 1/23/2006, Blogger The Michael said...

This guy is no different than those parents who are caught starving their children to death and keeping them in cages. Sadism is nothing more than a controlled, measured pathology that can actually degrade to such behavior in the total absense of empathy. Anything can be taken to it's extreme, and it does not surprise me to see people capable of doing so. The only true defense against such a spiral is to make one's kink known to at least some other, independant party, such as friends, to insure that one's behaviors are kept in check.

At 1/23/2006, Blogger cherish said...

Linda: Agrees 110%!!!!!!!!

Michael: Very true Michael!! The sad thing was his wife knew what was going on but again under his control and did nothing for years. The wife ended up being his downfall.

Thank you to everyone who commented. I hope you all know I do appreciate your comments and enjoy reading them immensely!!!!!!

At 1/27/2006, Anonymous BT said...


I didn't see the show but, from your account, I may be able to contribute a thought or two. Our brains are complex things, and not really one thing at all. It's pretty clear by now that they're lots of little things that just happen to live in same brain pan. Carl Sagan's Dragons of Eden isn't really up to date, but it's well written and gets the drift mostly right.

Anyway, there are people whose hearing and seeing brain bits are misconnected or something and who see numbers as colors or musical notes or some such. Or words as sounds or something. It's called synesthesia. Dyslexics with organic brain causes re likely something akin to this, but without some connections rather than extra ones.

I speculate that there's a part of the brain that likes to control other people. As a D, I've long been aware of it in myself, and fascinated by its relative lack in the s folks I've known. And there's a part that internalizes social rules that result from the practical observations that it's not possible for everyone to control everyone else. I think this guy (and maybe Dahmer, the BTK killer in Kansas, the 'Master' also(?) in Kansas who lured submissive women with promises (job, living arrangement, relationship, ..) and then killed them, Ted Bundy (who blamed everything on pronography his grandfather let him see -- but told that only to James Dobson a day or two before Florida executed him (making sly trouble to the very last), those two in the California hills -- the survivor hid out in British Columbia for several years until he got caught) and maybe even the carpet killer in Atlanta (Wayne something, though his twist was killing kids) all have somthing wrong in the balance between the two brain bits (or among several). Likely, on this reading, an unusually strong drive for control, or (or with), unusually weak social control impulses, or organic (probably developmental) problems (lots of environmental things cause neuro damage in utero and/or as rapidly growing kids), ...

Prof Temple Grandin of Colo State is autistic, and listening to her account of what she's managed to deduce is missing in the approach (attenuated, or even swamped by other things) her brain takes is fascinating. She claims she's entirely unable to multi-task -- she must concentrate on only one thing or she's entirely stymied.

And she has no social sense for others. If you've ever had a dog you'll be aware that they are very sensitive to your (and less for toher folks) moods, though probably not the cause. That's probably why they *know* when there's going to be a walk, even if it's not even close to the regular time. *Very claose* observation of even minute clues (muscle tension, shifts in weight bearing, ...). Wish I could be taht good as a D with my s. Budiansky has an excellent recent book on dogs a commensalists, and one of Lorenz's books -- that's actually readable -- bears on the dog behavior point is Man Meets Dog -- just ignore his speculation about two different ancestries. We now know -- from DNA -- that they're all wolves. It's the single best book on dogs and cats I've ever read. should be, it's what he won his Nobel for after all.

We just now celebrting the 250th of someone whose brain was as out the usual run of brains (hugely overdeveloped though in another way) -- Mozart. Perhaps the same sort of individual thingie out of balance with the other individual thingies that make up our brains that afflicts such monsters.

As for the consent question, it's a bit troubling and conflicting. 1st, if there is no consent, then the control business is most direct and least compromised. On the other hand, cooperation (ie, consent) makes practical (and so more rewarding) quite a great deal that would otherwise be as far out as the current censorship drive by the limited_government, except when it gets in your private life and bed, crowd. 2nd, it's not possible for any D to be good enough to work effectively without active cooperation from the s -- a point that much of the literature (and Web essays, and Old Guard tales and ...) unaccountably neglects. There isn't enough time in the day, or energy in a life to do it all yourself as a D. Every actual s -- not the do me, TFB queen sort -- must do their level best to keep their D informed about stuff that would otherwise need telepathy and the wisdom of Confucious, patience of Job, the polymathism of Thomas Young, insight of Nostridamus (a joke there folks!), ... and so on to manage alone. I tend to be explicit about this and unmistakeable, but I've know folks who managed this corner of things on what appeared to be an unconscious baiss -- nothing formal at all.

And now that we know they might be listening to my phone calls and reading my email with all that big computing iron and those clever pattern matching algorithsm (NSA's been patentiing them for more than a decade I know of) at Fort Meade, I am expecting that presently someone in that crowd will realize that all that secret tappiong it's a dandy way to catch folks (like many of my friends, and you, and me) of whom Mrs Grundy disapproves. Perhaps Admiral Poindexter? He's already tried once at the Pentagon. Or maybe it'll be sub-contracted to one of hte data mining companies like Checkpoint in Georgia. It's Comstock redux, and it induces painful reflux in all who care about liberty (in the American Revolutionary sense). Guy almost couldn't even read, but the government_in_your_bed_and_pants and_mail crowd thought he was just swell (for about two generations as I recall). Kammerer's (sp) A Machine That Would Go of Itself is small enough to actually read, accurate in what it covers, directly relevant and inappropriately light enough in tone to actually be readable, that I commend it to you (as part of any reading campaign in these dire times). In this sort of thing I can't imagine being more of an absolutist doctrinaire libertairian, however goofy I think much of the standard lib fare is otherwise.

Acckk! I just noticed how long this is, and I expect it might not be small enough for the comment apparatus. I'll do a copy and past before I try to submit it.

Best wishes, nice blog,

Bill (builtee ~~ yahouu -- take that spammers!)

At 1/27/2006, Blogger cherish said...

Thank you very much BT! You have given me so much to think about. I appreciate the time you took make a thought provoking post on my blog.

At 1/28/2006, Anonymous BT said...


You're welcome. I left that note late at night, and rereading it in the light of day, I can see that my fingers were doing something else altogehter, and my mind wasn't entirely up to the task of catching their errancy. Sorry about that.

I'd be interested to hear whether you might agree with, or disagree with, some of it anyway -- at least that content that survives the typos.



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